Benching: New dating term you might be a victim of

DECCAN CHRONICLE
Published Aug 13, 2017, 3:54 pm IST
Updated Aug 13, 2017, 3:54 pm IST
Singletons watch out!
Have you been benched? Find out. (Photo: Pixabay)
 Have you been benched? Find out. (Photo: Pixabay)

Dating is hard enough without the codes of what type of relationship you're in or not.

Everyone knows the famous line: "It's not me, it's you", is code for the relationship is over. Then there are more modern labels to keep up with like 'ghosting': When someone does the disappearing act because they want to avoid you.

 

Now according to the New York magazine's Beta Mal there's a new term singletons need to be on the look out for. It's called benching.

Benching: An individual unsure if he/she wants to date you, but still wants to keep you around if they do decide to change their mind.

When someone stays in contact with you via social media or a phone call but don't actually spend any real time with you, then you are being benched.

Even if you do plan to meet, it may just fall through at the last minute.

Dating experts Selina and Vicki of Project Love told the Metro that benching is the cause that has made online dating so popular. "It requires minimum effort (and commitment!) from the bencher and keeps options open with the benchees," they said.

So, are you being benched?





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