Social media and Ranbir Kapoor are not the best of friends; he has made it clear time and again that he doesn’t like the over exhibitionism it demands. However, in one of his recent interviews he casually revealed that it’s an effective tool to keep tabs on his peers, including former girlfriend Katrina Kaif. Ranbir’s rising activity on social media: Facebook, Twitter and Instagram, not as himself, but under a fake account is certainly an indication of a stalker syndrome.
Relationship expert, Dr Srikanth Acharya feels that men stalking their ex, is not unusual. “It’s nothing unusual — what Ranbir Kapoor has done post breaking up with Katrina Kaif. Men in general become very sensitive after a relationship ends; whereas women come to terms quickly. It is then that they resort to stalking their former lover just to keep a check on their lives,” he says.
If the guy is free and not involved in any serious work, the urge to stalk the said person increases, feels Dr Acharya. Psychologist Harpreet Kandhari agrees, “The journey of a relationship doesn’t end as soon as the break up happens. Instead, the inquisitiveness to know everything about each other increases. People go through previous social media posts and keep reminding themselves how happy they were.” But according to her, it is the sadist kick which works as a catalyst to stalk one’s former lover. “How can he or she be happy without me?”
So, is there any time frame after which people stop stalking each other and resume to normal life? “There is no time limit to come out of this feeling. But, people only do this to keep a check and not to hurt the other person,” says Harpreet. Explaining about what goes inside a person’s mind post break up, G. Shiva Kumar, clinical psychologist says, “A break up is, mostly, not a mutual decision. People can’t shut themselves up and delete memories. To reassure themselves that all will be fine soon, people stalk their former partners, hoping to get them back.”
Also, according to the experts, stalking by guys gets more highlighted than the girls. “Both the genders resort to stalking but girls do it silently and the guys are more open about it,” says Harpreet.