Young people tend to discuss their sex lives and give importance to how many times one is able to ‘do it’. What matters is not the frequency but the satisfaction one derives
Keshav’s eyes bulged out — three times in one night! His friends were discussing the number of times they were able to ‘do it’ in a night. He felt inadequate as he made a mental spreadsheet of the staggering comparative analysis unfolding.
Discussing the frequency with which one has sex is often like discussing salaries or CTC (cost to company)! One always wants to know how much the others are getting. This could be either due to curiosity or to know if you are on par with the others and to reassure yourself that you have not been singled out for unfair treatment by destiny.
All the surveys conducted so far throughout the world give a wide range of sexual frequency among the population studied. For example, the legendary Sexologist Alfred Kinsey’s study described a man who had sex only once in a span of 30 years, as well as people who had sex 4 or 5 times in a single day. With such an overwhelming range, it becomes impossible to infer what is normal. However, usually, in the initial years of marriage, the frequency of intercourse is high, followed by a gradual reduction and then stabilization at a particular frequency as the marriage progresses.
Given below is a ballpark estimate:
l 1st year of marriage – 18 times a month.
l Next five years – 15 times a month.
l following five years – Nine times a month.
l After 15 years – Twice a month.
The reasons for fluctuations in frequency vary from sexual boredom to family situations, lack of privacy, illness, shift in priorities, socio-cultural factors and so on.
Delve deeper into the issue and we find that a man tries to increase frequency to assert his masculinity. Women attribute reduced frequency to the fact that they have already proved their femininity by producing children
