Post-Marriage Blisters & Intimate Urges

I am a 22 yr old female and I have a strong urge to have sex. I tried diverting my thoughts, but I failed. I have a friend who knows this and he is showing interest in having casual sex with me. what should I do? Can my husband find this out after marriage?

Decide whether you will be able to handle the consequence of casual sex. If you think you cannot handle it, then do not indulge in it. The best way to divert your (sexual) thoughts is to involve

yourself in vigorous physical activities or sublimate in some other creative activity like music, dance, social service etc.

I am 28 years old got married last month and within a week I noticed some pimples and blisters around my vagina. In my husband’s penis there also found some pimples and blisters. What disease is that.

In all probability the blisters (pimples as mentioned by you) may not be due to a disease. They may be due to excessive friction to the genital skin during sexual intercourse. This may happen when vaginal penetration is attempted or achieved before there is adequate lubrication in the vagina. For whatever it is worth get examined by a doctor. Till the blisters disappear do not have sexual intercourse. Later on use an artificial lubricant like “K-Y jelly” if necessary.

The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com