Advice highlights communication, comfort, and science in marital intimacy
Q Six months into a love marriage, we are sexually active but I haven’t experienced orgasm yet despite trying different positions. How does orgasm happen, and what is the G-spot? My periods are regular and we want to conceive soon, when is the ideal time and what is the safe period? My husband prefers oral and anal sex, which I am uncomfortable with. Is this normal?.
You seem to have many misconceptions and inhibitions about sex. Unless you learn to let yourself go and enjoy all the sensual feelings, you will not reach orgasm. Of course, we have to find out whether your husband has premature ejaculation or erectile dysfunction, which may also account for your lack of orgasm. Orgasms can occur through genital sexual intercourse, oral-genital sex or through masturbation (by self and by partner). The Grafenberg spot, commonly known as the G-Spot, is named after the German gynecologist Ernt Grafenberg, and is a bean shaped area on the top wall of the vagina. It is supposed to be located between two to three inches from the external vaginal opening. It is present only in less than eight percent of women. The chances of pregnancy are maximum between the 11th and 18th days of a regular 28-day menstrual cycle. Of course the husband’s sperm quantity and quality and the health of the wife’s reproductive organs are important. I do not think your husband has either mental illness or hyper sexuality. I suggest that you both consult a specialist in Sexual Medicine in person.
Q I’m 54 and my wife is 43. We both engage in oral sex and sometimes swallow each other’s fluids. We’ve done this for years. Is it unhealthy?
As long as you two do not have any diseases (like Hepatitis B, HIV etc.) which can be transmitted through genital fluids, you need not worry. Also, make sure that you both keep your mouths and the genitals clean by adequate personal hygiene measures.
