Bro Time Helps Beat Blues

According to the Oxford University study, male friendships thrive on face-to-face interactions. Catching up over a football match, or even for a few drinks is more beneficial for mental health than endless work calls or casual social media interactions. Between demanding jobs, the occasional “I’m too tired” and family commitments, many men’s social circles are shrinking. Research shows that as men age, they struggle with friendships, and emotional support from their partner.

Dr Karan Mehta, a psychologist explains, “Unlike women, who generally prioritize social relationships, men tend to form friendships around shared activities.” However, there is a catch, colleagues at the office don’t count as friends. Men need friends beyond their professional circle as they provide the relief from stress with close friends who genuinely know you. “It’s hard to find time to meet friends when you are a family man because it’s mostly office, home, children. The vicious cycle starts again,” says Neil Fernandes, an HR executive.

Man-To-Man Talk

A night out with friends helps the body release endorphins — aka ‘’feel good’’ hormones. These natural painkillers help reduce anxiety and even lower blood pressure. “Laughing, or just talking nonsense with friends triggers endorphins and oxytocin– the same hormones responsible for reducing stress and increasing emotional well-being,’’ says Mehta. In short, a simple chai-samosa meet-up isn't just a distraction from adulting– it's a mental health booster.

Let’s address the obvious: Do women not need social bonding? Of course, they do! The difference is that women maintain friendships, they don’t need forced or planned social bonding. Kanika Singh, a life-coach cum counsellor explains that Man is a social animal. Women also need a break and ‘me-time’ with their pals. She explains, “The difference is that most women tend to have deeper conversations, even over text and calls. Men, on the other hand, often need a structured activity to bond.”

Society somewhere also takes the fall here as men are always expected to ‘’man up’’ and be the sole breadwinner of the family. Which is why these friendships are vital. They provide a space where men can be vulnerable without societal pressure. “If men even find time on the weekend, it will be mostly to sleep. Very rarely, we might go out to meet our friends,” says Fernandes.

Call Your Boys

So, next time you hesitate to step out for a drink, movie, or a quick catch up over drinks, remember; it’s doctor’s orders. After all, friendships are more than just beer-fueled banter; they are a testament to the history that you have shared with your friends for a long time. A story of growth, laughter, fights and most importantly comfort. “I think it is a healthy thing to meet your friends, they just help bring out the best in you,” says Riya Mathais, a realtor.

Next time, set a date on your calendars and remind your partner that science says that you have to go because its not just about having fun — it’s therapy.

The ‘Guys Night’ Guide

If you need an excuse to cover for your regular ‘guys night’ out, here are a few. But before you dust off your sleeves, remember, quality matters — deep meaningful interactions are what truly make a difference.

So how do you make the most of your time?

• Keep it Offline: Face-to-face interactions are key. A group chat is great for organising, but the real magic happens in person.

• Ditch Small Talk: Don’t discuss work, sports and personal issues. Real friendships thrive on open conversations.

• Make it a Ritual: Once a month, twice a week is mandatory. Find something you all enjoy and make it a non-negotiable event.