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7 common mistakes men make during sex

Published Jan 25, 2016, 12:04 pm IST
Updated Jan 25, 2016, 12:28 pm IST
Try to keep a tab these seven mistakes and experience the bliss.
Here’s a list of seven mistakes that you tend to make.
 Here’s a list of seven mistakes that you tend to make.

Men often don’t realise that what they think to be the best may not be, especially when it comes to your sex life. You at times make mistakes which turns off your partner. A little change in your thinking can bring a lot of positive change in your sex life.

Here’s a list of seven mistakes that you tend to make, try to keep a tab these seven mistakes and this will surely improve your sex life.

Mistake 1: Sex starts from bed.

Most of the men think that bedroom is the perfect place for making love, but that’s not always the case.

According to sex therapist Ian Kerner, a man gets turned on as quick as light but it takes time for women to get started. It is always better for the men to start seducing her and making her feel nicer as the day begins. Hugs and kisses can make it easier for you to get going.

As told to WebMD, feeling of safety and security makes women feel comfortable to go ahead. “Hugging for 30 seconds stimulates oxytocin, the hormone in women that creates a sense of connection and trust.” Says Kerner.

Mistake 2: Think that you know what she wants.

It’s always better to ask your partner for directions during sex. Kerner says “Just as many women are faking orgasm today as 20 or 30 years ago,” as reported to WebMD. Be a man, face the truth you really don’t know if she is faking it or not. Don’t ever hesitate to ask your partner how she feels or if she wants something different or more. Try to be giving, it will develop an understanding which is needed in your sex life.         

Mistake 3: Stick to the tactics

You may never know what will turn her on, and where she is in her monthly cycle. . “Perhaps her nipples are more sensitive or her genitals are less tingly,” says Sari Cooper, LCSW.

Don’t’ build up a perception that if it worked once, it will work all the time. When you think things are working, keep doing. Women often complain that men often move on to the next thing just as they start enjoying. Understand how she is responding to your touch, her expression and moan will give you the needed queue.

Mistake 4: Keeping it strictly physical

The main focus that men often give is on physical foreplay and forgets about mental stimulation. Expand your idea of sexual intercourse. Men get mingle up quickly as soon as they get started but a women fantasizes a lot during sex as it is a part of arousal. Keep talking or share a fantasy or sex memory.

Mistake 5: Intercourse gives her orgasm.

Intercourse doesn’t always work well. Most sex position doesn’t directly stimulate the clitoris. There are various other ways to give her orgasm that you need to explore. Experts say that oral sex gives her more orgasm than intercourse. Also try sex with woman on top or use a vibrator made for using during sex.  Men should feel comfortable, not threatened, with sex toys, explore and experience.

Mistake 6: Skipping the seduction

You skip this step, and you will surely have a boring sex life. Seduction plays an important role and at times it’s more important than the technique. It helps you to know what makes your partner turn on, whether it’s oral, visual, or mental. Talk dirty with her on the phone or run your fingers along the length of her body. Let her know how sexy and beautiful she is. Tell her how much you desire you.

Mistake 7: Focusing on the same thing

Men at times don’t understand the clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm, say experts. Paying too much attention on the top of the vulva can take away all the pleasure from women. It’s very sensitive and too much of stimulation can even hurt.