Most of us feel that facing difficulties with a smile is tantamount to emotional serenity. This is, however, more than what meets the eye, ear and mind. It exemplifies being in control, responsive, and receptive to oneself and others, including one’s own idiosyncrasies. Emotional tranquillity is also more than acquiescence to oneself. It includes exemplars that we use in day-to-day life to manage our customary stresses and hassles — the song of everyone’s burden.
The idea of being calm and composed promotes a pragmatic view. It also synchronises a sense of awareness of what one may, or not agree to. This is simply because when one is emotionally mature, they can be in charge and abstain from hurting others in unpleasant, or tense, situations. The more emotionally self-assured one is, or more serene, the better they will be able to resist negative annotations. Besides, they would all be in a better position to be able to purge their “veiled agenda” without being overawed.
All of us should aim to be emotionally mature individuals. In so doing, we would be more accepting of the fact that life is not always fair, yet beautiful. This takes us to the next level — taking responsibility for our actions and consequences. That living is just not enough; that we should try to live a tranquil life. This will teach and permit us to see things, as they are, not what they ought to be in the perimeter of our predisposed feelings. This will help us to experience a sense of connectedness with others and also ourselves.
“The greatest way to live with honour in this world,” as philosopher Socrates said, “is to be what we pretend to be.” This instils a purpose; it allows us to reverberate with happiness and poise, when we are alone, and when others are around, without losing our nerve, or feeling reticent. However, it will all work only when we liberate the awkwardness of being who we aren’t really and show our true self. In other words, we ought to elevate the core of our personality — of what is called emotions, or feelings, and willpower. Emotions make us what we are, or who we are. They need to be discharged with good intent; not “prejudice loaded.” They are the most powerful contraptions of our behaviour, because there cannot be life without emotions. When you establish and strengthen such emotional bearings, you will find renewed contentment in your life. You will begin to develop empathy with yourself. You will start to define who you really are without being over-sentimental. You will (re)discover yourself. You will also be able to remember your past, while living in the present and focusing on your future.