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Domestic abuse victims get a new lease of life at a Chennai café

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Published Dec 21, 2016, 4:31 pm IST
Updated Dec 21, 2016, 4:31 pm IST
Women are finding a way to be financially independent with Writer’s Café, a pilot project aiming to empower domestic abuse victims.
Representational Picture (Photo: Pixabay)
 Representational Picture (Photo: Pixabay)

Chennai: Measuring flour, whisking eggs and folding batter, K. Asma forgets the deep scars that run down her face and neck as she bakes cupcakes at a cafe in Chennai.

Four years ago, Asma poured kerosene on herself and lit a match, after reaching breaking point in an abusive marriage. She had meant to scare her husband into stopping the violence by setting herself on fire.

 

"I was thinking a small burn mark, some ointment and back to work as a sweeper cleaning the city roads after a day," said Asma. But she didn’t expect what had happened. "I didn't think the fire would consume me and that my life would become a living hell."

The 29-year-old is one of seven victims of domestic abuse who were hired by Writers' Cafe in a pilot project to help them regain their self-esteem while learning new skills that could provide some financial independence.

Last year, 327,394 crimes against women were reported in India, 35 percent of which were classified as "cruelty by husband or relatives", according to the National Crime Records Bureau.

The overall crime rate was down by 3.1 percent compared to 2014, but data showed an 8 percent increase in cases brought under the Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act. In 2015, 461 cases were registered against 426 in 2014.

Suicide Bid:

Hiding bruises and staying quiet, many women in India, especially in rural areas, accept violence as a normal part of life.

Many envisage suicide as the only way out with hanging, poisoning and self-immolation being common causes of death.

Like Asma, Parimala Gopi is also part of the Writers' Cafe pilot project, and had also tried to set herself alight after enduring years of domestic violence.

"I could see the horror in the face of my children when they saw me," Gopi, 35, said. "I could deal with my pain but seeing theirs broke my spirit."

At Chennai's Kilpauk Medical College burns ward, doctors treat up to 100 women a month for burns from kerosene and alcohol. Often the injuries are self-inflicted.

Counsellors at the hospital said that 60 percent of the cases have third-degree burns which are fatal.

"Among those who survive, we found that many were dying after discharge from the hospital," said Prasanna Gettu of International Foundation for Crime Prevention and Victim Care, a support agency for victims and survivors of domestic abuse.

"They did not have enough money to take care of their diet or the medication they needed to heal. Families were not being supportive and many were just withering away. They needed jobs."

Happiness:

At Writers' Cafe, Swiss baker Silke Stadler and chef Karan Manavalan, who are training the women to bake cakes, said their aim is to create a positive workplace where the women are not judged for past actions.

"It is a good space to make things right for them," Stadler said.

Aniruddha Sen, the chief executive of CC Fine Foods South India Private Limited, which opened Writers' Cafe, said his company planned to open similar cafes in 2017.

"We want them (the women) to have permanent livelihood through this venture," he said.

Projects like this and Sheroes' Hangout, a cafe run by survivors of acid attacks in the western city of Agra, are helping women find their place in society, campaigners say.

"It has been a long journey for these women to simply say yes to a job," said Gettu. He added, "They have battled stigma and their own insecurities before stepping out of their homes, boarding a bus, ignoring the stares and getting to work."

Asma does not mind that many people on the bus choose not to sit next to her during her daily commute to work.

"I just think about the work and the 10,000 rupees I earn every month," she said.

She also said "Baking that cake makes me forget everything, even my gnarled hands and scarred face. I find a little bit of happiness."

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