Single woman, who longed to become mum, had baby girl with gay best friend

DECCAN CHRONICLE
Published Aug 28, 2018, 5:16 pm IST
Updated Aug 28, 2018, 5:16 pm IST
Kerry Allen and Ali Thomson gave birth to Lanah in May, after carrying out artificial insemination at home.
The friends agreed they did not want to have sex and instead ordered plastic medical syringe from Amazon, and using the 'turkey baster method', where sperm is put directly into the vagina. (Representational Image/ Pixabay)
 The friends agreed they did not want to have sex and instead ordered plastic medical syringe from Amazon, and using the 'turkey baster method', where sperm is put directly into the vagina. (Representational Image/ Pixabay)

A single mum has revealed how she gave birth to a baby girl fathered by her gay best friend after making a pact to become parents on a drunken night out.

The woman, Kerry Allen, 29, and Ali Thomson, 27, from Northumberland, gave birth to Lanah in May, after carrying out artificial insemination at home.

 

The friends agreed they did not want to have sex and instead ordered plastic medical syringe from Amazon, and using the 'turkey baster method', where sperm is put directly into the vagina.

Soon enough, they discovered Kerry was pregnant.

However, tragedy struck at 19 weeks when the pair were told, in 2017, that their child’s heart had stopped beating.

Kerry gave birth to a stillborn infant they had named Elijah.

Now though, the couple - who met six years ago while working at a fast-food restaurant - are overjoyed to have welcomed a healthy baby girl, who was born on May 23 this year.

Kerry who shared her home in Berwick-upon-Tweed with Ali and their baby said that being parent was something they both wanted for a long time. Seeing Lanah (their baby girl) for the first time completed them.

She went on to add, “People do ask me, 'Don't you just wish Ali was straight?' But I don't. Neither of us have ever had any sort of romantic feelings for each other and we wouldn't have the relationship we have now if he was.”

Ali, a barman, and Kerry, who worked in Burger King until her pregnancy, say they 'just clicked' when they met – and have been best friends ever since.

The best friends moved in together in 2014 and a year later, during a drunken night out, Kerry had a light-bulb moment.

Speaking about it, she said, she always wanted to be a mum but was not in any relationship and didn't feel ready to be in one for a long time as she had been hurt before.

“Feeling broody, when I looked at Ali, I knew he would make a perfect dad.”

He agreed and finding resolution after a few glasses of wine, Kerry asked Ali what he thought about having a baby with her.

The morning after, Kerry asked Ali if he was still interested in her plan – and he was.

Straightaway the pair started researching how they could get pregnant without having sex and  found the 'turkey baster method' which sounded like the best, cheapest and easiest type of artificial insemination to suit their needs.

At home, Ali would collect his sperm in the Tupperware before collecting it in a medical syringe, which Kerry would then insert into her vagina and inject its contents before letting nature take its course.

After ordering the £3 syringe from Amazon and a £5 Tupperware box from Morrisons, for Ali to collect his sperm in, the pair chose a quiet night in October 2016 to start trying.

Three months later, on their fourth attempt, they were delighted to discover Kerry was expecting.

But in May 2017, tragedy struck at just 19 weeks when Kerry had to give birth to their stillborn son, named Elijah, with Ali by her side.

Despite their grief, the pair were determined to fulfil their wish to start a family, now even more sure they wanted to be parents together.

Last August, they decided to try for a baby for a second time - using the same £3 syringe as before, which they had kept on the bathroom shelf, and just sterilised.

And incredibly, Kerry fell pregnant straightaway.

On May 23 – two days overdue and after a five-hour labour – she gave birth to 6lb 11oz Lanah Allen-Thomson with Ali by her side again.





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