Say “I can’t” to everything that looks difficult
Don’t let fear guide you through life. Next time you feel like saying, “I can’t,” replace it with “Why not?” There is something really powerful when we leave a little space open for possibilities, instead of shutting the door in our own face.
It’s better to ask ourselves where the resistance is coming from, rather than give in to it immediately without a fight. It’s a subtle change in attitude towards ourselves that can have a tremendous impact in our lives.
Spend what you don’t have
If you didn’t earn it yet, don’t spend your money by giving in to momentary desires of what you think you need. Chances are, the moment will pass but your bills will remain (and increase with interest).
Be smart about money by keeping a log of your monthly expenses and then estimating how much you have left over after you've paid your bills, food, and other expenses. Then set aside a certain percentage of your paycheck to be automatically routed into a savings account. Even if it’s a small amount, it will add up over time without you even noticing.
Assume that your current job will last a long time
Why? Because you never know. If you’ve been working for some time now or you’re just starting a new job, try setting aside some money from each paycheck so that you can cover all your bills and expenses for three months.
If you are able to save up this amount more quickly, then continue until you have enough money you could live off for six months. Regardless of where you live, the economy, job market, or just life in general can bring you something unexpected; the best way to deal with it is if you prepare in advance as much as you can.
Have zero goals to aspire to
If you’re drifting through life without having any specific goal in mind of what you’d like to do in the future, you’re not being respectful of your own time on this planet.
Why have goals? It’s a great way to stay focused on what is truly important to you, and it gives everything you do more meaning.
How can you define your goals? Ask yourself, where do you see yourself in the future, who do you want to become, what would be an ideal lifestyle for you?
Then write down your top three goals, map out what you need to do every day so that you can reach them, and create a weekly or monthly schedule so that you can work every day towards achieving them.
Forget to live by your moral code
What is your moral code? You already possess it: It’s a combination of how you were raised, your cultural values, your religion, your spiritual practice, what you believe to be just, and some personal rules you’ve created for yourself along the way. Nurture an awareness of your moral code so that it guides you through life. Let it help you make decisions, both big and small, about your career, partner, circle of friends, personal goals that are important to you. Try your best to be true in everything you say, think, and do.
Depend on other people for constant love, attention, or entertainment
Don’t use other people to get your momentary emotional “fix.” Why? Because you will become helpless when they don’t have time for you or are no longer around. Instead, build your emotional structure so that you can provide for yourself.
Don’t look for entertainment elsewhere; find things that are fun that you can do on your own. Live your life in such a way that you like yourself; it's imperative to maintain happiness. And above all, believe in yourself and that your traits and abilities provide value to others.
Lie to yourself
You can trick yourself into believing something, but that usually has an expiration date. You know the times you told yourself you don’t really care about a relationship or a dream job, when in all truth you really did? Or when you told yourself it’s okay to walk away from something difficult even when you know you will probably regret it years later?
Maybe it’s time to take yourself more seriously and be honest with yourself. Why? Because that is the most important relationship you will ever have. So roll up your sleeves, ask yourself the difficult questions, and then decide how to do what really matters.
Obsess about other people’s things or words
It’s easy to get sucked into the latest updates from your Facebook or Instagram friends. Try to take everything you see and hear with a grain of salt. Chances are it’s not their reality; it’s the version of their reality they want you to see. Instead, focus on what you have going for you in your life.
Practice gratitude for the little things, stay true to your goals, and don’t accept all advice that you get from everyone, because advice is autobiography that comes with the life experiences of others. Use your critical thinking skills and your best judgment before you act.
Dwell on your mistakes
There’s a big difference between learning from and dwelling on mistakes. Consider this: you either learn to fail or fail to learn. Making mistakes is a normal part of life. It’s how you approach them that matters.
Try a different strategy of viewing your past by forgiving yourself for mistakes that you made. Reflect on them, learn from them, but don’t hold on to them.
This applies to your relationships, career, education, and other areas of your life in which you feel you didn’t achieve what you wanted or underperformed in some way. By changing how you relate to mistakes, you will give yourself more freedom to manage your future more successfully.