No matter how much we claim to love our partners and we accept them the way they are, things are quite different in real life. Love is not about undivided attention and affection; it has its rough patches too. Relationship experts say that it is healthy to share each and everything with your partner, but there are some things we should be more mindful and take care to not mess things up.
Here are a few basic things if which followed can make things better, if not worse:
Social sabotage
So many times knowingly or unknowingly we sabotage our relationship socially. It involves speaking negatively about our partners in front of others. Is there really a necessity for your talk ill of your spouse? If they ever find out about this, it is going to prove detrimental to the relationship. According to the Journal of Family Psychology, social sabotage can be considered a form of passive-aggressiveness, which makes you brood and allows negativity to engulf you.
Silent treatment
If you think silent treatment is the best treatment, then this is where you are going wrong. Lack of communication leaves situation unaddressed and can leave an indelible scar. According to the journal Communication Monographs, a couple who opt for silent treatment is said to be unhappy in the relationship than others. Talking and resolving matters not only helps in clearing misunderstandings but also help in understanding the needs and expectation of your partner.
Comparison
Comparison is by far the deadliest weapon to sabotage a relation. Comparing your spouse or your situation with others can set unrealistic completion in the relationship. For this, social media has to be blamed in many ways that make the comparison even easier than what it was in the past.
There is competition – “if others can, why can’t we” have ruined numerous relations and is still continuing to do so. The advent of social media is creating pressure on couples to be their very best and paint a fake picture for the world to perceive.
Impulsive break-up
Most of the times we tend to develop a habit of breaking up impulsively over and over again for all the wrong reasons. Petty reasons for the fight should not prompt breakup. It requires immense emotional energy and therefore, it is not a good thing to break up for the silliest of reasons. Allow your anger to cool down and then talk about is and sort things out.
Respect partners privacy
Always keep in mind that the privacy of your partner should never be violated. True that you share everything with your partner, but there is something called privacy, which should be respected. Nagging for phone passwords and bank details should be an absolute no-no!
