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Masturbation can be absolutely liberating post breakup

DECCAN CHRONICLE.
Published Sep 6, 2019, 5:00 pm IST
Updated Sep 7, 2019, 3:18 pm IST
Let’s read what people have to share about their experience post break-up.
Women do masturbate but very less in comparison to men. (Photo: Representational/Pixabay)
 Women do masturbate but very less in comparison to men. (Photo: Representational/Pixabay)

So many times, while doing random Google search we might have tumbled over words like the breakup sex, make-up sex, rough sex; so many different forms of sex. The one thing probably that lies in unison with various other forms is that involves the active participation of two people. We all enjoy sex and it is blissful to enjoy it with someone whom you really love.

However, think of the jolt that you might face post-break-up. You are extremely depressed, trying to wrap your head that your beloved is no longer there for you. And to make things worse…you are sex-deprived! It is very human and natural to feel and experience these emotions post-breakup. I am sure you too must have heard people suggesting quite often to embrace the pain in order to move on and get over it.

 

How far is this justified is the question? Different people opt for different forms of distraction and engagement and yet so beautifully, fail miserably. Experts are of the opinion that it is imperative to indulge in self-love for the feel-good factor to kick in, allowing reality to sink in. True! Many of you have tried the ‘self-love’ concept to feel more confident and walk like a boss that it does not really matter to you anymore. But deep down you do feel the emptiness and most importantly sex-deprived.

Masturbate! Yeah, you read it right. Isn’t masturbating a form of self-love that deserves to be given its due share of attention? If you did not know this earlier, then masturbating is one of the key activities that can help you bounce back to normal. Trust me it does! Let’s read what people have to share about their experience post-breakup.

 

Masturbate to feel liberated

Susana (name changed) who broke up with her boyfriend after ten years of relationship shares, “At first I was surrounded by disbelief that I was breaking up and I was in a state of shock for weeks. I wasn’t happy with the turn of events as my personal life was affecting my professional life, until one day when I had a revelation. One morning when I woke up, a sudden urge spiked inside me and I had to feel free. I masturbated. This was the first time I ever masturbated as there was no need for me to try this earlier. I started feeling happier and less grumpy than before. Masturbation helped me snap out of the feeling of disbelief and a feeling of ‘I am enough’ flooded my mind.”

 

Susan's testimony makes it clear how masturbation has a deep psychological impact on the human psyche, and this is quite fascinating. Unlike men, women physiology and psychology works differently. Women do masturbate but very less in comparison to men. In most cases, men masturbate even when they have a partner, and this does not come as a shocker. Mature sex need not be vaginal. However, people still adhere to the Freudian and Victorian male-oriented sexual morality.

Masturbate to explore your sexuality

On the other hand, for Rubina (name changed) masturbation was not about liberation from depression but exploring the sexual and sensual part of her persona. She shares, “When my friend suggested that I should masturbate, I was initially hesitant. Nevertheless, I still took a chance. More than the orgasmic release, what took me aback was the fact that I discovered my sexuality. I knew better what I like, how I like and what is it to be pleasured at the right hot spot. I unravelled the kinky side of me and that I can be sexually quite demanding to know exactly what I want to feel satisfied.”

 

Through masturbation, you learn to love yourself and discover eroticism and build your self-esteem.

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