Body Image

DECCAN CHRONICLE. | DR NARAYANA REDDY
Published Jun 27, 2017, 2:02 am IST
Updated Jun 27, 2017, 2:02 am IST
Our mental spotlight, at times, is more on the negatives.
Body image is one’s perception of the self, and how we feel others see us.(Representational Image)
 Body image is one’s perception of the self, and how we feel others see us.(Representational Image)

A woman who was sitting in my reception area recently was truly breathtaking in every sense of the word and honestly, it was an effort not to take a second glance as I walked past her to my office room. My curiosity was all perked up. Now, what could be the reason that such a beautiful woman wished to see me? And for a while, I felt sad too wondering at the magnitude of her problem. However, when I finally got to speak to her, my jaw fell as I heard her problem. 

Here’s what she had to say — “Sir, I am unhappy due to a lot of things. I think my breasts are too small, I have stretch marks on my body, I am ashamed to wear revealing clothes, and my figure is too flabby. I cringe when I have to undress to have sex with my husband wondering what he thinks of my body. I did approach a slimming center but I ended up fainting after just one session. Can you help me in some way?” Frankly, I just wanted to hold a mirror to her face and say — look at yourself! 

 

Body image is one’s perception of the self, and how we feel others see us. A subjective matter, if one goes by the standard commonly agreed. Our mental spotlight, at times, is more on the negatives than the positives. Common concerns range from a small penis to a burgeoning paunch. A careless, flippant remark from a third person too makes us mentally troubled. 

Understand that you are born with your constitution. We may be able to change many things about us but not beyond a point. Exercise, stay fit and wear your self-esteem on your heart and not on your body image. 

 

The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com

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