How Cancer Breaks Families Mentally And Emotionally
3 Feb 2026 11:41 AM IST3 Feb 2026 11:41 AM IST
Behind every cancer patient is a family falling apart quietly. On World Cancer Day, let's talk about the silent mental battle families and caregivers face.
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On World Cancer Day, we light candles for survivors. We applaud their strength. We celebrate remission. All of that matters. But there is another side of cancer that stays mostly unseen: the quiet, breaking mental health of the families who carry cancer on their backs every single day.
“The burden of caregiving for terminally ill patients is very high. There is a huge emotional cost which goes unnoticed as the focus is on the patient,” says Mrudula Akki, Counselling Psychologist, The Counselling Connect.
With cancer comes fear, debt, exhaustion, and a loneliness that grows louder in hospital corridors.
When I met Meera, a mother sitting outside a chemotherapy ward, holding a small blue file that had her son Aarav’s reports. Aarav was eight. Too young to understand why needles hurt so much. Meera hadn’t slept properly in months. “Everyone asks how my child is. No one asks how I am holding myself together.”
Caregivers learn a new life overnight. They learn medical words they never wanted to know. They learn how to smile when their loved one vomits after chemo. They learn how to be strong while their own minds are quietly falling apart. Sometimes, families don’t even stay whole.
Rukmini remembers the day her husband left. Their daughter Nisha had just been diagnosed with leukemia. “He said he couldn’t watch her suffer. So he chose not to.” But her in-laws did not mince words when they said, “We don’t want a cancer gene in the family, so it’s best you leave our son.” Rukmini now works two jobs, spends her nights in hospital chairs, and whispers courage into her daughter’s ears while swallowing her own panic. “I cry only in the bathroom because I don’t want my child to see me break.”
Hospitals become second homes. The smell of disinfectant, the beeping machines, the long waits…these things carve deep wounds in the minds of the caregivers. Watching someone you love in pain is a kind of torture that never leaves you. Every chemo cycle brings hope, and every scan brings terror.
Sunil, whose wife battled breast cancer for three years, said, “The worst part was pretending to be okay. I had to be her strength. But inside, I was scared every single day that I would lose her.” Even now, after her passing, he struggles with anxiety. Cancer didn’t leave when she did. It stayed with him.
“Emotional burnout of the families also needs to be addressed by helping clear communication and identifying roles in the caregiving,” says Mrudula, adding, “Cancer treatment centres can offer psychosocial support for family members in the form of counselling.”
Then there is money, the unspoken monster. Treatment costs pile up like waves. Savings vanish. Loans grow. Some families stop treatment midway, not because they want to, but because they simply can’t afford to keep going. That guilt, that helplessness, becomes a lifelong scar.
“We sold our shop to pay for my father’s radiation,” said Imran, 26. “When the money ended, the treatment ended too. People think we gave up. We didn’t. We were just out of options.”
Cancer caregivers fight battles every day, mentally, emotionally, and financially. They love fiercely, even when they are exhausted. They grieve while still hoping. On this Cancer Day, let us see them. Ask them how they are doing. Sit with them. Support them.
Because surviving cancer is not just about the patient. It is also about the families who silently suffer and still show up every single day.
( Source : Deccan Chronicle )
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