Myths Around Divorce, Sex, HIV Risk… Debunked

Q I’m a 28-year-old woman, married 2 years ago. I had three abortions. Before this, my vagina was more sensitive and orgasms were frequent. What should I do to repair the damage, if there has been any, so as to regain my vagina’s sensitivity?

Consult your gynaecologist to check whether your vagina was damaged during abortion procedures.

Q I am a 26-year-old man in love with a woman who is six years older than me. She is divorced, has a son. We want to get married. I want to know if it is safe for me to have sex with her once we are married. We have not had sex yet and will wait but my friend tells me that as she has been married before, she might have sexual diseases like AIDS. What should I do?

Just because a woman has been previously married we cannot assume that she might be having some Sexually Transmitted Infection. Yes, that possibility exists if her ex-husband had the disease and passed it on. There’s also a possibility of this is if the lady has/had any other sexual relationships either during her married life or after her divorce. The only way to make sure is to get her blood examined for Sexually Transmitted Infections. What about you? Are you free from infections?

The writer is a sexologist. Mail him at dr.narayana@deccanmail.com