“A mother is always our first love, and our last love, and there’s no greater relationship than between a child and its mother. I hope I can keep my mother happy, that’s my top priority,” Ranbir Kapoor once said of his relation with his mother, Neetu Singh.
The mother-son relationship being such a poignant one, being a Mama’s boy or dating one comes with its shares of advantages and pitfalls.
Having grown up being very close to his mother, the inherent trait of a mama’s boy is that he treats women with care, respect and dignity. They are generally sweet, sensitive and unafraid to show emotion. Women are more generous when it comes to showering affection on those they love and it naturally rubs onto their son when there is a close bond.
“They tend to be more caring and compassionate and don’t look at women as submissive or as sex-objects. It’s always nice to be with someone who respects women but on the other hand he shouldn’t be too dependent on his mother either,” Swetha S., an IT professional from Chennai says.
As Swetha points out, some of them can end up being too dependent on their mothers even after growing up. This can result in a relationship friction when the man’s mother and spouse fight for space in his life. Men close to their mothers tend to be emotionally dependent on them and turn to them for every obstacle he encounters.
Having guided and advised their sons on every turn in their formative years it becomes near impossible to stop doing so, even after their marriage. A mother not willing to let go of her space in her son’s life can spell trouble for a marriage. “I don’t want to date a guy who is going to be updating or asking his mother for permission before every step/decision he takes,” Swetha adds. “Every man needs to be independent at some level and can’t go on depending on their mother for everything. At the same time, the woman must also understand the family equation and value that bond before jumping into marriage,” says Actor Ajmal.
Men are likely to be more hands on at home having watched his mother run a home from close quarters and he is unlikely to compel his partner to stay at home and work and will gladly share the chores at home.
Men are also likely to make comparisons between their spouse and mother on a consistent basis and take his mother’s side more often than not but if the girl is willing to share space and make peace with his closeness with his mother, then it could be a fruitful relationship.
