No relationship is without its ups and downs. But when you find that the two of you are “down” far more consistently than “up”, maybe it’s time to revaluate your relationship, and whether or not you should continue with it. Here are the signs the experts say you need to watch out for:
1. You have to ask for love and attention: It is the responsibility of both partners to make the other feel loved. If you have to ask, things aren’t quite right.
2. Your partner doesn’t go anywhere with you: Now there’s a very fine line between leading your own lives and not having one with your partner! If your partner doesn’t like to go out with you when you have a social engagement (be it meeting friends, colleagues, some other activity) and doesn’t seem to want you along on his/her engagements either, there’s trouble brewing.
3. You keep trying to change your partner (or vice versa): If you’re constantly making excuses for your partner’s behaviour or working o improving him/her, then you need to ask yourself — who did you fall in love with? Your partner as he/she is, or as you’d like them to be?
4. You give more than you get: Now, it isn’t that there’s always perfect balance in a relationship between how much each of the partners invests in it in terms of time and effort and emotion. Sometimes, one of you does more for the other; at other times, your partner takes the initiative. But if you find that you’re increasingly the only one who’s giving and not getting all that much from your partner in return, perhaps it’s time to stop.
5. You have to convince yourself that you are happy: How long does it take you to come up with an answer to the question — “Are you happy in your relationship?” If it takes a little too long, the answer clearly is that you’re not.
