The debate over the pros and cons of marrying someone from one’s own profession has raged for years. And in the limelight always, are celebrity relationships. While actress Trisha’s engagement with businessman fiancé Varun is in trouble, in Bollywood and down South, there are many filmi couples leading happily married lives. For actresses, marrying someone who is not from their own professional background seems to be a tough choice, whereas having a partner from the same fraternity means doing away with “unnecessary insecurities” and “better understanding”. A weird equation crops up when, for an actress marrying an actor is a better option while for an actor, it doesn’t seem to be an issue, as long as it’s someone who lets him take all the limelight, maybe. Shahid Kapoor even said he didn’t want to marry anyone from the industry and chose Delhi-based Mira Rajput.
Meanwhile, most actresses married within the industry are happy. Raveena Tandon, married to film distributor Anil Thadani, says, “I do feel having married within the industry has helped me. My husband understands the needs of the profession and I have his full support in everything I do.”
Be it Saifeena or Twinkle and Akshay, or even down South Mahesh Babu and Namrata Shirodkar or Suriya and Jyothika, successful relationships within the industry are plenty. Actress Kushboo, married to director and actor Sundar C., says being married to someone from the industry results in better understanding.
“When Sundar and I got married, we had to forego family holidays, birthdays and anniversaries. Even now, I can’t complain if he does not turn up on our anniversaries,” she says. Even relationship experts believe that marrying within the industry has its own advantages.
“When both spouses are from the same fraternity, especially in the show business, they understand each other’s nature of work. But there are all sorts of permutations and combinations and essentially, one needs to remember that issues, like in the case of Rati Agnihotri, are because of the spouse’s nature,” says Mumbai-based Dr Rajan Bhonsle, psychotherapist and relationship counselor.
Actresses, meanwhile, often feel that there is a stark difference between getting married to an actor and spending their life with someone who’s from the industry, but not necessarily facing the camera.
Sonali Bendre says, “There is a big difference marrying someone who is from the industry but remains behind the camera and someone who is an actor. I feel I would not have been able to have a happy married life with another actor, it is too demanding a profession.”
There’s another side to the story too. Actress Rakul Preet says, “An actor will understand schedules. If you are shooting in a remote area, he won’t panic if he can’t reach you. But marrying an actor also means that there are high chances you won’t be able to spend enough time with your partner because of the timings. Personally, marriage is a topic that I’ll think about only when the time is right; it’s far too early for me now.”...