Mumbai: Everyone knows how a stereotypical movie love scene works. The hero looks at the heroine. There’s a sudden breeze, in an otherwise calm sunny day, that sends her hair flying, her face glows and right then and there the hero knows he’s destined to be with her. Sadly marriage does not work that way. For one, there’s no background music when you meet the girl you’re destined to spend the rest of your life with. So here are a few tips to find out if she’s the right one:
Honesty: Most of us are not our real selves when we’re courting. We’re manufactured personalities designed to impress. But as the relationship matures she slowly shares her insecurities and doubts with you. She is not afraid to show her weaker side.
Doesn’t change you: She is okay with who you are. She doesn’t constantly try to meddle in your activities and change you to suit or complement her personality. She doesn’t impose herself on you.
Gives you the space you need: Every individual needs his or her own space. She lets you be when you want to be left alone. She is someone who understands that every second of your life need not be about her. It is important that she trusts you but a little jealously is okay. It’s natural. “It’s equally important to discuss and understand the ambitions of your partner and talk finances before committing,” says relationship consultant Rajani.
