Mumbai: Open relationships aren’t everyone’s cup of tea. An open relationship can be a very scary thing if you don’t know what you are doing, but can be really great if you do. Here are 5 things you should know before you jump into one.
Check your stability
An open relationship is a huge emotional risk equivalent to tight rope walking over a pit filled with lions. In both these situations you need a solid support system. You should be solid if you’re starting something new. It’s best not to get yourself into one if you’re stressing or are personally going through a rough patch in life.
Set the rules straight
This form of dating requires flexibility. Set out rules about what everyone involved is allowed to do and with whom you can do it. Remember to be clear about what you want and what you expect from the others involved, this way no one ends up getting hurt and it’s a fair system. It’s absolutely fine to write these ‘rules’ down on a piece of paper.
Jealousy is natural
When you get yourself into an open relationship prepare to be jealous. Even in the best circumstances, you may come across moments in which you feel jealous. Do not avoid this feeling of jealousy, either acknowledge it yourself or you can talk about it with your partner. If you can’t get over that jealousy, then open relationships aren’t for you.
Be honest
Talk to everyone involved. Clarity is a very critical component of an open relationship, so be truthful to all those involved. Let them know what you want and what you expect from them.
And last but not least have fun!
If you’re sure that this is right for you, you can have the most amazing open relationship with no regrets. If you think you’re curious, if you’re looking for an adventure, if you love sex, if you don’t believe in monogamy, then this just might be the answer to all your problems. But if there ever comes a time when you feel it’s not as great as you thought it would be, don’t hesitate, just jump right out of it.
