Mumbai: As a healthy sex life is a key part of an intimate relationship, it's important to get more romantic day by day.
Here are some of the solutions which can help you get the right kind of sexual intercourse on bed:
Partners should try to rediscover each other everyday
If couples haven’t had sex for quite a long time, the touch and feel of your sex partner might seem artificial and forceful.
One needs to try to get to know each other, which will help in building up the intimacy between sex partners. One can start rediscovering his partner by scheduling dates in different interesting forms like biking, bowling or a stop for a cup of coffee etc. Christina Steinorth, Psychotherapist said "If you haven't had any kind of quality time together, you're not going to feel sexual."
A quick sexual encounter may regain its excitement once you’ve reconnected. "When the relationship's alive like that, the 10-minute ‘let's sneak off and do it' quickie works great," added Steinorth. "It's like your little secret and helps further build the bond between you. But that bond has to be there in the first place."
Improve your sexual styles
Even when everything else in the relationship works, many a times sexual styles aren't always compatible. You like long foreplay sessions. Your partner is ready to go in an instant. You long for wet, sensual kisses. He prefers dry, chaste pecks.
According to experts, ‘Sex is not just naturally perfect. There is the energy of a new relationship that is positive -- the excitement and the eagerness and the passion. And the negative is that you bump noses or knees because you just haven't learned how to dance together yet.’
To make the bedroom time more interesting, it’s better that you reveal to your partner what kind of love do you prefer, including the sexual moves you would love the most.
Spice up your relationship
"When you're in a long-term relationship, you get into a routine," said Renee Horowitz, Founder of the Center for Sexual Wellness in Michigan. "That's why it's so much easier to get excited in a new relationship -- everything is novel, and your brain responds accordingly."
Even though you can't switch partners every time the excitement wanes, one can change up some of the other factors. "Try a different place, a different time, a different position," Horowitz says. Have a morning quickie. Try sex in the shower or in a different room in the house.
Find easy solutions to avoid painful sex
Sometimes it's not that you're not feeling in the mood; it's that your body isn't cooperating because sex is painful. This can be a big issue for women approaching menopause, and you might be too embarrassed to tell your partner. According to Web MD, ‘As we age estrogen levels decrease, and this affects a lot of organs, including the vagina. When tissues atrophy and thin out, losing some of their blood supply, intercourse becomes more painful.’
For those who can’t handle painful sex, Horowitz suggested that using vaginal estrogen, vaginal lubricants can be a solution to it . But check with your doctor if the pain continues. That way your doctor can rule out other, possibly more serious conditions that might be causing it.
