I had an affair with a classmate while I was in school. Our relationship did not get our parents’ approval, and I got married to someone else. After many years, I met my ex at a wedding. Ever since then, while having sex, I imagine him in my husband’s place. Later, I feel guilty. But the same thing happens every time. Am I immoral?
Meeting with an old flame always brings back the thrill you experienced at that time. There is no harm in recollecting the past, but you should not let it interfere with your present. It’s quite possible that this chance meeting with your ex has perhaps spurred sexual feelings in you. And as for the sex part, the mind always thinks of what it is not supposed to think. Do not become dependent on it to the extent that your sole release comes from fantasising about this one person only. Try substituting your husband and his plus points in your fantasies.
I am 23 years old, I have a three-year-old child who wants to sleep with me and this irritates my husband. He thinks I am not giving him importance. What to do?
Your husband needs to grow up. He is mistaking your pre-occupation with your child as dereliction of your wifely duties. You strike a balance between your husband and the child and tell your husband that he has given you the gift of motherhood and request him to help you fulfill that role. Also, there is always a thrill in doing things on the sly. Sneak out of your room and have sex in another room after your child sleeps.
