Suicide is never the solution

RAM GOPAL VARMA
Published Jan 19, 2014, 5:13 pm IST
Updated Mar 19, 2019, 7:07 am IST
Depression is the most common reason for suicide. The realisation that escaping suffering is hopeless makes people take the final plunge.

A few months ago, it was actress Jiah Khan who took her life and recently, Uday Kiran. What’s going on? Why do they do it and more importantly, how do they do it? The will to live is so strong that when someone goes against it, it’s too mind numbing for me to understand. People who have survived suicide attempts have confessed that it is not so much about wanting to die, than about ceasing to live. Depression is no doubt one of the most common reasons for suicide. The realisation that escaping suffering is hopeless makes people take the final plunge. They start thinking that “those around me are better off without me” or that “I am better off without those around me.”

Nobody really wants to die — they want to alert those around them about their misery. In a strange way, I think it is their way of taking revenge against those who continue to live. They might also want to strike out at someone who has hurt them. An example of this is the beautiful Jiah Khan who suffered genuine angst because of something reportedly going wrong in a relationship.

 

For all those who might contemplate suicide in the future, I just want to say,  “You people should seriously think about the wounds your suicide will leave in the lives of those who you leave behind, rather than selfishly thinking about your own wounds. To think that you can all deal better with tragedy by dying is plain dumb. Just like tragedy came on to you yesterday, who knows, fortune and happiness also might come to you tomorrow. If you aren’t here to take it, you would be dumber than dumb. Lastly, kill what caused that sadness rather than yourself — which I think is the dumbest option.”

 

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