A friend introduced me to this guy. Though he is rude and a little mean at times, I find the same habit a little endearing. There is something about him which is very attractive. I am not quite sure what though. He is a model and loves working out. I am the complete opposite, though I am not fat, I could use a little working out. For the last few days, I have been wondering if this is just friendship or more. Another thing that both of us love doing is taking jibes at each other, but in a tongue-in-cheek manner. Is that normal?
Rudeness as an attitude is to show dominance when someone’s authority is questioned. It could also be an attempt to hide their insecurities. Attraction for this guy should not mask his rudeness. Evaluate yourself if you have an attraction for dominating persons and what it means to you.
As long as the jibes are lively and taken in the spirit of friendship, it is normal. If you sense a vibe of hatred or spite in his tone then you need to get cautious. If it is all playful banter, then you need to talk about your feelings for him to take it to another level. Good luck!!!
This girl from college, she flirts (non-verbally) a lot with me. She told two of our common friends that she has ‘strong feelings for me’. She is very nervous and shy around me. I like the girl, but I am frustrated now. She still looks at me all the time shyly, follows me around. But when I try to talk with her, she runs away. I also recently found out that she again told someone that she has feelings for me. Yet, she can be mean to me at times (only when she is with others). What’s her scene?
What are your candid feelings for her? If she is dropping hints and not advancing further, she is probably not getting reciprocal vibes from you and hence wants to be cautious. Beneath her aloof, yet flirty nature is a conservative approach, to protect her ego. It could be her defence to not get hurt, if her love is unanswered.
She could be waiting for you to initiate a call to express if you have ‘love interest’. Being mean at times could be anger and frustration that you are not longing for her and not responding to her hints.
