A news that shook many since the Harvey Weinstein scandal broke out was that of actor Anthony Rapp accusing well-known actor Kevin Spacey for raping him when he was just 14 years old. Although Spacey denied the allegations, what was equally shocking was when the House of Cards actor’s estranged brother, Randall Fowler, claimed that Kevin’s childhood was a dark one, filled with violence at the hands of their father. This makes one wonder, whether being abused as a child can result in a difficult adulthood or was this Randall’s attempt to defend his brother?
While it may be true that a child has to go through extreme mental trauma when abused, there is no concrete study to support the general presumption that victims of child abuse become abusers themselves. In fact, many celebs such as Drew Barrymore and Oprah Winfrey have openly spoken and condemned abuse of any kind.
“The research evidences show that there is a significant chance that an abuser will have a history of childhood abuse. However, that is not true for everyone,” says psychologist Dr Baijesh Ramesh, adding, “Having said that, a lot also depends on how old was a child when he/she was abused, by whom they were abused and whether it was a one-time case or if it happened over a period of time. So, bad childhood is not predictive of a person growing up to be an abuser. However, an abuser has higher chances of being harassed as a child.
It can also affect the child in various other ways — they may become reserved and socially awkward or may not be able to forge a strong bond with anyone at all.” Counselling psychologist Lorraine Bellard opines that depending on the environment that the kids grow in, they can also grow to be a good persons. She says, “Family and friends play a major part in any person’s life. Many times the way a child is conditioned, he/she feels that that is the only way to react to a situation when they grow up. However, to say that every kid who is abused will become an oppressor is not right. With some support the kid can grow out of it too, and can become a really good person.”
Another area that is affected greatly by child abuse is the victim’s sexual life as an adult. “Many of the male abusers have themselves faced abuse as a child,” explains well-known sexologist Dr Narayan Reddy. “Child abuse may result in rough, bad or no sex life in the later stages of the victim’s life. One cannot wipe out the memories altogether, especially the memories of abuse. Due to that, the victim may not want to indulge in sex at all, which happens more in the case of women. But, in the case of a man, one analogy that I can draw is that of a student who is ragged in college or school. Generally, that student would end up ragging his juniors too. But, this is not applicable for every male who has been abused as a kid,” he adds.
Other celebrities who were abused as kids
Drew Barrymore: The Charlie’s Angels actress
allegedly suffered child abuse at the hand of her father John Barrymore.
Michael Jackson: The pop king was reportedly beaten by his father Joe Jackson as a child.
Bill Clinton: Reportedly, the former U.S. president’s stepfather, Roger Clinton was abusive and struggled with alcoholism.
Oprah Winfrey: The famous talk show host suffered from sexual abuse as a child in Milwaukee; she has been quite vocal about it and has helped many other victims.
Christina Aguilera: The singer was allegedly emotionally and physically abused by her father while growing up.
Eminem: Reportedly, Eminem’s father abandoned him as a kid; his mother suffered from Munchausen syndrome and abused him.
